President Obama in Malaysia

Thank you US Embassy for the invitation to attend the Town Hall for Young Southeast Asian Leaders Initiative (YSEALI) with President Barack Obama. I would like to share just a few general impressions of the event and President Obama's speech.

I felt so proud to witness the first American President since Lyndon B. Johnson in 1966. YESEALI was held in Dewan Tun Canselor, University of Malaya at around 3.30 p.m. The security in the campus was very strict. The queue started around 11.00 a.m. in front of the Dewan Tun Canselor. 

Dewan Tun Canselor, University of Malaya

The participants that waited to enter the hall

The 10 flags in the hall represented the young leaders from the 10 ASEAN member countries to tackle what Southeast Asian youth have identified the greatest challenges i.e. civic engagement, education, economic development and environmental protection. 

OBAMA POWER! HAHA :D

The Town Hall session kicked start with Mr. Obama's greetings in Bahasa Malayu. He said that "Malaysia Boleh" was resemblance to "Yes We Can" throughout his presidency campaign. He emphasized the power of youth towards the nation building and transform the world into a better place. The vision of our world lies in the hands of the youths. Together, we can achieve just, prosperous and peace. 

Now I would like to share some highlight on President Obama's speech:-

1. Equality

"Malaysia won't succeed if non-Muslims don't have opportunity" the best quote of the day. He emphasized in the "togetherness" despite the races, religions, languages and differences. It is important to respect the diversity because it is the uniqueness of this nation. The diversity creates unique intersection of humanity. The equality of different background and ethnic groups is important to achieve a prosperous nation. He further expressed that we should appreciate our differences and background, it shouldn't be a reason to discriminate.

2. Perseverance

The problem that most of the youth facing today is being "impatience". Impatience is usually defined as irritation with anything that causes delay. It is a strength to change something but sometimes, we can be disappointed if change doesn't happen immediately. He pointed out the need to persevere and do not give up easily in whatever field that we are doing. I appreciate his encouragement because I face the same problem as well. I always look forward to achieve result immediately without realizing the importance of strong foundation. Daisaku Ikeda once said "What is easily done can be easily undone. To move steadily forward on one's chosen path, step after step, whether or not others are watching; to meet difficulties with the steady, relentless strength ceaselessly flowing water-such firmness of purpose, such integrity and perseverance builds a foundation that can be never compromised." Never give up. 

3. Money

Mr. President said if we want to start a business, we should be really excited about the product and it shouldn't just about how much money we can make. For example Bill Gates who started Microsoft are really interested in what they do and they really think that it can make a difference in people. He said "I think the most important thing for me was when I started thinking more about other people and how I could have impact in my larger society and community, and wasn't just thinking about myself." That's when your dreams can really come true, if we think about others, our world gets bigger. (Y)

4. Time

Mr. President discourage us to spend every minute of every day working (yayyy!) It is because we have to enjoy life. But it is also important to spend time wisely because most of us have spent awful lot of time on watching TV or playing games. When we add it up, we could have spent more time in learning a new language or other meaningful things. Remember time losses can never be redeemed, we must use time as a tool.

5. Family 

Spend more time with family because in the end, the family is such an important part of our life! He warned those who have not called their parents lately to care about their family. Malchor Lim once said, you must make an effort to appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you, because you will never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you. Spend lots of quality time with the people you love, someday you will either regret not doing so or you will be glad for what you did. 

Many people are saying that it was wasted opportunity because the participants had threw weak questions. In my opinion this talk is rather personal one for us to know how a president think. He might be dealing with political and global issues everyday but the answer by Obama to those simple questions really inspired me. Please be informed that the participants is formed from high school students until graduated youths. It is not fair to generalize everyone as there were only a few people randomly selected to ask. I had prepared so many questions in hand but I was not being selected to to share my questions and thoughts with Mr. President. (face problem maybe?) I hope to see him in the near future to have a greater discussions with him :)

Anyway, I SHAKE HANDS with Obama today!! 

(p/s: Please don't ever touch my hand because I am not going to wash it for the next 3 days haha!)

Sources: http://www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2014/04/27/remarks-president-obama-young-southeast-asian-leaders-initiative-town-ha

Let it go

The snow glows white on the mountain tonight

Not a footprint to be seen.

A kingdom of isolation,

and it looks like I'm the Queen

The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside

Couldn't keep it in;

Heaven knows I've tried

Don't let them in,

don't let them see

Be the good girl you always have to be

Conceal, don't feel,

don't let them know

Well now they know

Let it go, let it go

Can't hold it back anymore

Let it go, let it go

Turn away and slam the door

I don't care

what they're going to say

Let the storm rage on.

The cold never bothered me anyway

It's funny how some distance

Makes everything seem small

And the fears that once controlled me

Can't get to me at all

It's time to see what I can do

To test the limits and break through

No right, no wrong, no rules for me,

I'm free!

Let it go, let it go

I am one with the wind and sky

Let it go, let it go

You'll never see me cry

Here I stand

And here I'll stay

Let the storm rage on

My power flurries through the air into the ground

My soul is spiraling in frozen fractals all around

And one thought crystallizes like an icy blast

I'm never going back, the past is in the past

Let it go, let it go

And I'll rise like the break of dawn

Let it go, let it go

That perfect girl is gone

Here I stand

In the light of day

Let the storm rage on

The cold never bothered me anyway!

Sometimes we judge ourselves pretty harshly. We blame myself for things we have no control over. We criticize and treating ourselves far worse than we would ever treat anyone else. It's easy to hold ourselves to high standards, and get disappoint if we fail to meet them. 

Perhaps the key to silencing the enemy is accepting all of ourselves including both darkness and light within us, the learning to create a higher ratio of self-diminishing thoughts. Maybe the goal shouldn't be always high but to recognize when we start being self-critical so that we can shift our thoughts more quickly and effectively with each internal struggle.

Despite the criticisms, ignorance, disappointments and emo, please do not give up to try again and again. I am trying to focus on progress, not perfection - to forgive myself when I have gotten negative, let it go let it go, and then start anew right where I stand.

"Don't be too hard on yourself, there are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do. Even mistakes mean you are trying. When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you"

Take a stop, find a reason to be happy, be yourself, tomorrow is a better day :)


Reference: Tinybuddha.com

  

中肯

人脉的意义不在于你认识谁，而在于你能吸引谁，（靠权力、威慑去推动谁这不算人脉）能吸引谁根本在于能给对方提供什么价值。

这种价值并非只是很肮脏龌龊的那种相互勾结利用的商业价值，任何情感价值，娱乐价值，信用价值，学术价值，都可以。


不管是否内向，当你能够提供的价值足够高，自然会吸引到别人，性格内向的人给别人提供娱乐价值自然比较困难，但是并非没有可能拥有其他的用武之地，性格有些确实是天生的，强改不来的。

METICULOUS

2014 kick off with a great lesson.

Reflected on how I worked in my very first month, I did mistakes in my borang 1-5, screw sq,hs,cs,ke work, transcribing problems etc. The one and only reason that caused the problem is nobody else but myself.

I remember how my mum scolded me of not closing my closet most of the time, criticized the disorder manner of my clothes, never put back the things that I took from etc. I told myself I don't want to waste my time in these tiny mini little things that affect my more important things. Eventually the "cincai" habit (simply do) have became my bad habit that have an adverse impact in my pieces of work done.

The METICULOUS needed to be trained in my daily life. For instance, if I am going to mop a floor in my condo, I could just cincai run a mop over the floor without paying extra attention to it as long as I mop it. Previously, I used to think that "ceh, don't waste my time doing those preparations, it's just a floor anyway". However, there are so many skills required to mop it properly. I definitely need to wear my specs (in order to see the floor clearly), then I need to move all of the furniture and other items on the floor. After putting the right mixture of the chemicals in the bucket, I also need to ensure the mop head is clean without much water on it. I can now start going from left to right or vice versa. After that I have to make sure that the chemical residue free from the bucket and the floor. The floor not only looks better and cleaner by using the right method and proper portion of the chemical, it will be will be germ-free too! No one might notice the difference but it doesn't change the fact that the floor is not the cleanest unless I put a meticulous effort in mopping the floor.

But look at a larger picture, apply the same technique to life and work. The best example in pupillage is to do transcribing. One can choose to do it with cincai attitude or to do it wholeheartedly. Doing transcribing might be time consuming but these are all the valuable practices to become a more meticulous and careful person.  We all make mistakes but efforts can be done to minimize the mistakes. Also, nobody is perfect but I strive to do the absolute best that I can. 

"Being a pupil is not an excuse to make mistakes, we need to treat EVERY single piece of work equally and take it very carefully" 

The question now is HOW CAN I BE METICULOUS?

Patience is one of the key factor. Many instances the work can't be done properly because I lost patience at the end. So practicing patience in even the smallest thing in my self.

Discipline and perseverance is another challenges that I am trying to encounter. Do the best piece of work disregard of whether the work was given by other pupils, secretary, associates or even partner. With the meticulous habit, I believe that it will prevent any bigger problems that cause more work in the long run.

Looking at my favourite Lamborghini, every bolt, inch of piping, machine in the engine were meticulously designed to ensure the car doesn't fall apart when I am driving in highway. Similarly, I want to be more and more meticulous in whatever undertakings in the present and future to ensure my bright future *wink*

I feel thankful for the all the constructive criticisms that inspired me to do my human revolution. 

p/s: I shall continue exercise more and more to keep myself energetic! I believe that meticulous can only be achieved when I have the strong mental and physical condition to face any challenge in my life.

ALL THE BEST!!!

I believe my great things are coming real soon! 

NMHRK

Minions Spirit

How's pupillage have been treating you? Besides research, opinion writing, V-notes, DD, translation and reports, we are doing a lots of transcribing.

Transcribing is a process to put the entire court proceedings into a written form. Often time the court proceedings took more than 10 hours on case to case basis. So transcribing has been occupied most of our nights and weekends.

The hours and days in transcribing, compiling and editing can really kill my patience. However, we are still doing it to help out our friends as a team. It can't be done without the corporation of everyone. Subsequently, I realized that a well functioning team can make work a joy! I was truly amazed by the "Minion spirits" portrayed by my peers. With their energetic demeanor, lively, cooperative and voluntarism, what is not to love about my job?

One cannot achieve great accomplishments without first undergoing the tedious work.I am all ready to embrace and challenges or work that will be given by anyone!

I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE YOU, MY BEST MENTOR. *pray very hard*

NMHRK

Face to face dialogue

Lesson of the week:-

Nothing can reply the value of face-to-face dialogue. An author of body language James Borg says that human communication consists of 93% body language and para linguistic cues, while only 7% consists of words. Here are just some of the manage advantages of face-to face dialogue. It is definitely useful for me who is still trying to improve my writing skills in English.

Effectiveness: To get things done as soon as possible. When an issue requires a decision, you are able to reach a consensus quickly. One simple 5 minutes conversation could eliminate 15 emails.

Non-verbal communication: Someone who is frequently checking their watch would tell you easily that it's time to wrap things up. Conversely if the other are smiling and nodding with you, you know that they are agree with you. 

Misunderstanding: How many times a massage or email have been misunderstood or perceived by another party? Face to face meetings will definitely minimize the risk of miscommunication.

Personal touch: There is a feeling of community because we are able to interact with one another. A bond has been built quickly that sets the foundation for trust.

In short, although face to face dialogue are the preferred method of communication, the other forms of communication allows us to save time and boost up productivity without restricted by locality in the age of technology .So, lets trying to get rid of instant messages, e-mail, whatsapp and social media if possible. Let's meet up and talk :D

Sources: http://www.starmedical.co.uk, http://bluejeans.com/, 

212

2.12 is a prosperous day for me! It's not only my first anniversary after I enshrined Gohonzon, it is also my first day of pupillage! I believe it's a gift from Gohonzon. :)

Muhammad Ali Jinnah once said:" I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right." Similarly, instead of wishing and hoping to get a good master or gain the best knowledge, I want to create positive values and greatest memories in my 9 months of pupillage! Therefore, I have listed 9 resolutions in my pupillage.

1. Passion

I still remember vividly where I can't answer the interviewer's question in relation to my future. Although it is important to live at the present, I want to discover my passion and focus in a specific area that I love. Passion energizes me to get up each morning and help me to find direction in my life and career. 

2. Healthy 

This seems like a must-have list in each and every of my resolution. I believe nothing can be done without mentally and physically health. Equipped with best facilities in my condominium, I must hit the gym/swimming pool/badminton court/futsal/squash more often! Also, I wish to get my golf handicap. Most importantly, I must achieve my goal-weight of 52kg. I can do it!

3. Friends

I want to be surrounded and associated with like-minded and passionate friends that can inspire me to do better. Let's try the law of attractions yayy!

4. Attitude 

A positive attitude causes a chain of reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results. Be humble and kind to people. I am thinking of sharing positive messages with random strangers. HAHAHHA. Always treat everyone as you would want them to treat you. Be confident and fearless.  

5. Opportunites

Challenges are opportunities. There is no adversity that I cannot transform based on the Buddhist principle of "changing poison into medicine." Challenges keep a fire in my belly and my passion high. I am not going to let myself stressed out. When I feel that rush of stress, I am going to sit back and put my hands behind my head and stretch out my legs. Be prepared to receive my "crazy notes" or "love letters" to distress lol 

6. Reading

This is one of my weakness that I am trying to overcome. I must read newspaper/e-news everyday.

7. Financial 

Make money in Riggit and spend in Ruppiah and I want for nothing. I truly understand pupillage can't really earn much money but I believe that the knowledge is my greatest treasure that I will gain. It is important to have my financial planning to ensure my monthly expenses are bare minimum. You guys can still date me for lunch/dinner because I have budget for it ;d Hopefully I can get myself a Swiss automatic watch after the 9 months!

8. Blog

A minimum of 9 posts per month. I want to polish my English and share my interesting pupillage experiences with you all :)))

9. Kosen rufu

I want to contribute to my life and share it with others. One of the best ways to share passion with friends, family and colleagues is through face-to-face dialogue. That is why I much value in gatherings and soka activities. I believe it will help me to discover and reaffirm my passsion, resulting in an incredibly amazing and productive months in my pupillage. 

I foresee the traffic congestion in my near future. It will my best opportunity to chant :) Chant a minimum 30 minutes for the luck, faith, wisdom and happiness for all.

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

人一定要旅行！

19歲讀大學，問你理想是什麼，你說環遊世界；
23歲讀完大學，你說實習後成為律師再去；
25歲工作穩定，你說買了房子後再說；
30歲有車有房，你說等結婚帶另一半一起去；
33歲有了小孩，你說小孩大一點一起去；
40歲孩子大了，你說養好了老人再去；
結果最後你哪裡都沒有去。。。

旅行，就是離開生活熟悉的地方然後不一樣的歸來。
旅行，就是重新回到出發點然後認識它。
旅行，就是在地圖的一點留下自己的腳印。
旅行，就是體驗不同的地理文化。

所以我們不要偷懶，一定要旅行！一個人見識很重要，見識多了，自然會視野寬廣，然而影響你對很多事情的看法。旅行讓人更有自信，不會在物質世界裡迷失方向。

人生其實就是一場旅行，而旅行就是體會不同的人生。對每一個人說生命就是一場盛大的旅行，而日子就是你經過的每一站風景。然而美景不僅僅是目的地，而是深深的感受沿途的那些人和發生在這片土地的點點滴滴。

真正的旅行是一種生活態度，不在乎目的地和長短，離開熟悉的環境去探索陌生的風景，體會一種從未有過的人生。你不知道明天會遇見誰因為一切都是未知數。

旅行能帶人們回歸真正的自然，找回自己忽略的東西，體會永恆的意義，學會感恩，在靈魂之中發掘真正的自己，豐富自己的人生！旅行不但是在眼裡，更是在心底。如果某天在一個陌生的地方，不必知道自己何去何從，就欣賞這一站的風景而留下感動和美麗。

每一個人心中都有座山，總想翻越這座山去看看世界。但是爬到山頂卻發現還有更多更高更遠的山。我們翻越一座座山後，讓自己走更遠。這就是我們心的旅程讓自己聽見內心的聲音。

旅行是一段時間和空間的改變，無論改變多麼大你都會回到現實。不需要一直留戀過去，放膽去創造未來的美麗旅程！因為旅行最重要的不是結果，而是放下一切去感受當下的過程。

想去的地方就一個人出發吧。哪怕只是搭一般未知去向的巴士也是探索星球呀！

尋找失去的微笑

如果說生命是一張七彩的唱片，那麼微笑就是一首和諧的歌，它能使生活更加燦爛；如果說生命是一個音符，那麼微笑就是一架鋼琴，它能使你的生活生動起來。池田先生說過不管遇見什麼事情都要開心的面對。我一直也很欣賞路飛的精神。我原本以為我是快樂天使，微笑永遠都沒有截至日期。

但不知何時開始我臉上的微笑漫漫不見了。我真的很努力尋找往日的開心，尋找那遺失的微笑。現在是我人生最最最黃金的假期，想做什麼都可以，想去哪裡都可以，豐衣足食。但我發現自己有越來越多的缺點。漫長的假期竟然請來了憂鬱先生的來探訪！

當我推開一層一層的心門時，我竟然發現自己內心的聲音。我發現自己原來為自己做的決定那麼心疼。做決定的時候考慮很多身邊的人，讓自己比較“輕鬆”過日子，但卻忘記問最真實的內心。自己心理有了答案，卻違背心願。然後看著自己的微笑漸漸消失。雖然就只有短短的九個月，難道地方真的可以磨滅你想學習的決心嗎？那是不可能的，我一定努力去創造價值，為我的決定負責任。我相信唱題會給我最好的路，會便毒為藥。

失去了微笑就像船隻沒有了指南針迷失方向；失去了微笑就像小鳥失去了翅膀飛不上藍天。要知道時間不會因為你不開心就停止不前，生活也不會為了你的悲傷而同情你。為甚麼不讓自己快快樂樂的度過每一天？微笑的面對考驗讓自己更加堅強！

生活就是一面鏡子，你對它笑它也會對你笑。為了自己，微笑吧，放下那些不開心的事。有些事拿得起就該放的下。不要讓自己過得太累，不要背著難過，不要把悲傷壓在肩膀上而變得脆弱。 在家根本不帶面具的我，不需要壓抑自己，想哭就大聲哭吧！然後開心瀟灑面對自己。

有理想遠見是件好事，但是不需要太過擔心未來而忘了珍惜最美好的“當下”。要找回戰勝自己的信心和勇氣，現在要尋找回失去的微笑！

世界為我加油

Investing in yourself!

"Two roads diverged in a wood, I took the one less traveled by"-Robert Frost's The Road Not Taken

It has been almost eight month since I completed my studies in University. While everyone is busy completing their pupillage before being called to the bar, I am still happily having my looooong holidays. Many people do not really understand why I am wasting my time for those "nonsense".

Many wonderful things happen when you initiate. I might be late to be called to the bar, but I want to be proud when I look back when I reach mid-20s in a few years time. All I want is to meet the best people I could meet at a point of time, tried everything that I wanted to try and done the best that I could have done. I have actually spending time to invest in myself in the holidays when I walked away to talk to local kiwi and trying to understand how their life was. Understanding the place is definitely more important than having photos to proof you have set foot there!

Warren Buffet believes that the best investment you can make is to invest in yourself. The more you learn, the more you earn. Find something that you like to do and you will never work a day in your life. Let's start investing in ourselves to figure out what is our true passion and interest.

October, the month of investment and transformation from inner to outer of myself. I will keep you updates about my transformation!

See you readers! 

Contentment

What is contentment? It is a state of being satisfied with what you have. I believe that we should bear in mind that there are always room for improvement even we are contended. After having a quality conversation with my friend today, I truly understand why kiwi lifestyle is so much different compared to most of the countries in the world.

We used to live in a place that keep us from content with what we have. Everyone (including myself) has always influenced by surroundings or media to be demanding. For instance, when a girl look like celebrities, specific lifestyles, marry a rich man or earning more money then will make her very happy. What is the problems with us now?

I never seen any youth in kiwiland (so far) using smartphone in comparison with most of my friends in Malaysia. You can see the rich kiwi wearing torn shirts and jeans like a normal people walking around the town, there is not much people carrying branded stuff in contrast with what we normally see in Asean countries. Kiwi (New Zealand people) are contented with what they are having now! It is the main factor that they have a longer lifespan and younger look!

I think the main problem that we are all facing now is lack of self confidence. We often being brainwash in the materialistic world that money can buy happiness. The only method to overcome this problem is to do the human revolution in order to determine what we want in the life despite of other influences. It is important to differentiate what we "want" and what we "need".

Frankly speaking, sometimes I will feel some disappointment after I came to kiwiland for 2 months. Unlike the stable working schedule as I expected, as a result I pokkai. Hahahaha. Then how can I save money to travel and to do the things I want as I imagined? Then we spent rest of our time/holidays rotting in a super small town to waste our working holidays.

BUT wait, I am feeling happy right now although everything is out of my expectation. I never knew that the tiny mini small town that I am currently living is soooo beautiful espcially the wharf and beaches. It is more beautiful than anywhere else that I have visited so far.

Moreover, I had bunch of lovely friends in the small town! A bestie or roomie that we share every moment together. A housemate who share with me many adventure stories. A super duper childish friend that have the power to cheer me up. A teacher that have many insightful thoughts. A blackface that can really smile and sharing his lessons with me. A pair of lovey dovey that can crazy with me. A bro that we can talk everything under the sun. A friend who is really eager to earn money. A bunch of cooking-mates that fattening together. And many kiwi ama/agong to crap and have fun! Look, I am really appreciate and thankful for what I have right now.

Last but not least, I want create value and beautiful memories in my remaining two months in the beautiful kiwiland. Take my time to adventure, explore and discover :)

堅強

如果我們註定無法改變這個世界的殘酷，如果我們註定無法遏制生命路途中，將要面對的艱難困苦和逆境厄運，如果我們註定要一個人孤獨的經歷一生的磨難與挫折，那麽就讓我們學會堅強。

   
一個人的路總要自己一個人走，一個人的苦總要自己一個人受，一個人的淚也總要自己一個人流。每個人都是一個獨立的個體，我們不能將這一個獨立的個體徹底的融入另一個個體的靈魂，所以我們必須獨自承受成長的磨礪，所以我們必須學會堅強。

   
第一次摔跤的時候，我們不懂得什麽叫堅強，只知道痛。

當一次次摔倒，又一次次重新站立起來的時候，我們明白了，擦乾眼淚，忘掉疼痛，咬緊牙關挺過去，就是堅強。

堅強是一點點磨練出來的，年輕的時候，我們倔強、輕狂而勇敢，我們敢於向一切未知的東西和舊的習慣勢力挑戰，那不是堅強，而是年少的無知和無畏。

  
當生活的挫折、磨難與壓力一次次將你絆倒，你又一次次站立起來，擦乾眼淚凝望遠方的時候，你的目光中那種堅毅的鎮定裏寫滿的才是堅強。

堅強的背後是血性的剛毅，堅強的背後是壓不曲的脊梁。

堅強的人，淚流乾了依然會挺起堅實的胸膛，堅強的人，血流盡了依然還會有永不改變的信仰。

生活中有太多的荊棘與坎坷，生活中也有著無數的意外與不測，生存本身就是一個巨大的博弈場，我們在博弈中不可能不受傷，也不可能總是風平浪靜，無驚無險。

自然界有適者生存的法則，人類也一樣，唯有堅強才能挺過一個個難關，唯有堅強才能邁過一道道溝坎。

堅強是一種信念，有了這種信念的支撐，我們就有了與命運與厄運抗衡的勇氣。

每個人身上都蘊藏著無盡的潛能，每個人身上也都有著堅強與懦弱的一面，只要我們在面對困難的時候，堅信自己是打不倒的，那麽潛藏在身體內部的堅強的力量便會勃然而發，你也就可以有足夠的信心去迎接挑戰。

堅強是一種智慧，堅強的人懂得生活中沒有一帆風順的成功，沒有盡如人意的一生。同時也沒有邁不過去的溝坎，趟不過去的河流，只有永不退縮，永不妥協，永不輕言放棄的人，才能在黑暗中尋找到黎明的曙光。

生活中的每個人都面臨過挫折、無奈、委屈與病痛，所有的磨難都是生活教會我們堅強與勇敢的手段。

命運從來不會眷顧懦弱與不自信的人，眼淚也不是超脫逆境的武器，唯有堅強才是戰勝困難的法寶。

男人需要學會堅強，堅強的男人才會有信心、有勇氣主宰這個世界。

女人也要學會堅強，堅強的女人才會有能力、有決心主宰自己的命運。

堅強是寒冷孤獨中堅毅的目光；

堅強是疼痛折磨時冷峻的微笑；

堅強是走過荊棘時含在心頭的眼淚；

堅強是面對厄運時不輕言放棄的品質。

堅強的人敢於直面坎坷，從容面對；

堅強的人敢於迎浪而上，自強不息；

堅強的人敢於改變人生，把握命運；

如果鍛煉過的鋼鐵只有淬火以後才會更加堅硬，那麽堅強的心一定也是經歷過種種磨難以後才會更加堅定勇敢。

握著我的手，給你信心，學會堅強，勇敢地去面對所有的挑戰。

A Blessing or a Lesson

“We met for a reason, either you’re a blessing or a lesson.” – Frank Ocean

I honestly believe that every person we meet in this world is here to stay in our lives forever at some capacity or to stay there long enough to teach us something about life and ourselves and then go away. I keep a journal next to my bed titled, “What did you teach me?”  Those persons that come into my life and then end up leaving get sections in this journal. I try not to get sad about them leaving, instead I try to figure out why they were ever there to begin with and record what they taught me. It helps me to become more self aware and to grow; many times preventing repeat events from happening in my future.

Just do it!

“Hope,” Beethoven cried, “you forge the heart into steel.” 

Hope is confidence. 
Hope is determination. 
Hope is courage. 

And faith is the ultimate expression of hope. Belief fortifies the heart.

Don't worry too much about how your future will be. Get your things done now! Enjoy every single moment now! It's good to have faith and hope, do your best no matter what realities are. I believe the best will come to you eventually!

GOOD LUCK!

世界请为我祈祷

付出最最最多努力的科目换来...?

让我冷静，重拾自信去面对明天后天还有下个星期的考试！

给我个拥抱，世界请为我祈祷，让我有勇气走下去！

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

羡慕

有这么一则寓言：猪说假如让我再活一次，我要做一头牛，工作虽然累点，但名声好，让人爱怜；牛说假如让我再活一次，我要做一头猪，吃罢睡，睡罢吃，不出力，不流汗，活得赛神仙；鹰说假如让我再活一次，我要做一只鸡，渴有水，饿有米，住有房，还受人保护；鸡说假如让我再活一次，我要做一只鹰，可以翱翔天空，云游四海，任意捕兔杀鸡。这是挺有意思的一种现象，可谓风景在别处。

我们总是不自有自主地会去羡慕别人所拥有的东西，羡慕别人的学业，美貌，家境，男友，出国留学，等等，唯独忽视了一点，我们自己也是别人所羡慕的对象。

其实人总是在这样互相羡慕的。有的人常常幻想有一天一觉醒来，自己就会成为某某一样的人。可能是因为我们深知自己人生的缺憾，所以就会拿那些我们认为比较完美的人生来作比较，当做人生的坐标。其实这个世界上并不存在十全十美，那些我们所羡慕的人同时也在承受着他们的不如意。所谓家家有本难念的经，人虚荣的本性使他们原把自己风光的一面展示给人，又有谁能真正看到别人风光背后呢？很多时候，得到的就是所承但的，每件事都像硬币一样有两面，有正面就有负面。

人，尤其是女人往往喜欢拿自己和别人作比较，结果是“人比人气死人”，其实不妨和自己比比，看看自己是否越来越好了，是否离自己期望的目标越来越接近了。时不时给自己鼓励，你会做得更好。说不定在你羡慕别人的同时，别人也正在羡慕你呢。当然，有的人的确值得我们羡慕，不完全是因为他们得到的多，而是因为他们善于经营

羡慕别人是因为我们期待完美，期望可以活得更好。可是我们却忽视了一点，每个人的处境都不同，别人永远无法模仿。不过我们可以通过观察别人的长处来修正自己的短处，与其仰望别人的幸福，不如注意别人经营幸福的方法；与其羡慕别人的好运气，不如借鉴别人努力的过程。

不要再去羡慕别人如何如何，好好算算上天给你的恩典，你会发现你所拥有的绝对比没有的要多出许多。而缺失的那一部分，虽不可爱，却也是你生命的一部分，接受它且善待它，你的人生会快乐豁达许多。

所以，真的不必去羡慕别人。守住自己所拥有的，想清楚自己真正想要的，我们才会真正地快乐！

public prosecutor

Latest updates: I was the new victim of the cyber crimes and being cheated in my recent online transactions. I am in the midst of investigation and collecting evidence. However, most of the evidence I have collected is too vague and work against me. I'll be going to police station this wednesday to assist the police for further investigation. Say IF I can solve this cyber crime case successfully (the successful rate is only 1%), then I may consider to serve the public by being a public prosecutor next time. 

Lessons learnt: BE 200% CAREFUL when you are buying things online especially Expensive stuff. DO NOT EVER TRUST ANYONE ONLINE BECAUSE EVERYTHING CAN BE FAKE! I'll share the stories soon. 

Forget about this thing for a while, it's time to prepare for my Evidence Law exam tomorrow, good luck to me!

Metamorphosis

Ever since a year ago, I have learning to be following my heart, do the things I like and ignore the things that I dislike. At home, I try not to rely dad and mum too much as before and I try not to rely on friends much in campus too! All the things I am trying have a common intention: I am trying to be independent.

Some people may ask me: "Hi Mei, what are you so antisocial and not following your friends in tutorial class?" I gave them the best answer by smiling :) Just because we are different classes sometimes doesn't mean that I care less about them than I did before; Just because of the less phone calls with bf doesn't mean that I don't love him as before; Just because we seldom meet doesn't mean that I don't miss you as before! I always think true friendship isn't being inseparable, it's being separated and nothing changes. In human relationships distance is not measured in miles but in affection. 

As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is like a party. You invite many people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren't even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter the most.

Sometimes we overcare about what other people think about us. We are not born to impress everyone. It's right, well Shakespeare was, nothing is really good or bad, it is what it is. It is the thinking that makes us label things. We make positive or negative by how are we interpret them. Be yourself and have conviction in what you are doing!

Promise

Keep every promise you make and only make promises you can keep

- Anthony Hitt

49 Life Secrets!!!

Truly inspiring words by Highexistence! 

1. Memorize something everyday.Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.
2. Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions.Those who are heavy-set with material desires will have a lot of trouble when their things are taken away from them or lost. Possessions do end up owning you, not the other way around. Become a person of minimal needs and you will be much more content.
3. Develop an endless curiosity about this world.Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. Stop and observe all of the little things as completely unique events. Try new things. Get out of your comfort zone and try to experience as many different environments and sensations as possible. This world has so much to offer, so why not take advantage of it?
4. Remember people’s namesso that they feel appreciated and for your own future benefit when you want something from that person. To do this, say their name back to them when they introduce themselves. Then repeat the name in your head a number of times until you are sure you have it. Continue to use their name in conversation as much as possible to remove any chance of forgetting it. If you’re still having trouble, make up a rhyme about their name: “Dan the Man” or “Natalie flatters me.”
5. Get fit!It’s ridiculous to think that we have one body, one sole means of functioning, and people are too lazy to take care of themselves. Fit bodies lead to better health, confidence and more success with romantic endeavors. I’d say those are 3 very good reasons to get in shape.
6. Learn to focus only on the present.The past is unchangeable so it is futile to reflect on it unless you are making sure you do not repeat past mistakes. The future is but a result of your actions today. So learn from the past to do better in the present so that you can succeed in the future.
7. Even more specifically, live in THIS moment.Even 10 minutes ago is the past. If you live purely in this moment you will always be happy because there is nothing wrong in this split-second.
8. Smile more often.Whenever you get a grin on your face, your brain is releasing serotonin, the happy hormone. Smiling is the natural way to force yourself to be happy. Many people even smile for five minutes straight in the morning to get themselves in a great mood for the day. It is a very powerful tool that is utilized less and less as we grow older and need happiness more than ever. Just remember that while happiness leads to smiles, smiles also lead to happiness.
9. Drink water.Hydration is tremendously important for overall health. Soda has absolutely ZERO nutritional content; it’s like pouring a punch of sugar and syrup into your cup. Instead, fill it with life-replenishing water. It may taste plain at first if you’re coming off of a heavy soda-drinking streak, but you’ll soon find yourself addicted to it. 10 glasses per day is optimal, how many have you been getting lately?
10. Don’t take life so seriously!Learn to laugh at the little things and this whole “existence” thing will be a whole lot easier. Be amused by your mistakes and failures and be thankful that you learned your lesson and won’t mess up like that again. And most importantly do things that you enjoy! Life is not strictly business, it can be mixed with pleasure.
11. Think positive thoughts.When you find yourself thinking a negative thought, stop it immediately by any means necessary. Slap yourself in the face, yell something positive at the top of your lungs or jump up and down. Do whatever it takes to get back to a positive mindset as such is essential for continual happiness and success.
12. Read books.No explanation needed.
13. Get in the sun.Superman was completely re-energized when he flew out to space and soaked in some rays and you can do the same right outside your front door (if you live in a constantly dreary place, my apologies). The sun feels amazing: your entire body will be coursing with warmth and life.
14. Help others.I’ll just give you a plethora of reasons why this is a MUST
    • Helping people has a ripple effect. If you help someone they will feel more obliged to help someone else, and so on. Pay it forward
    • You grow by giving and helping others. It can change you in ways you never expected
    • Your relationship with that person will become stronger
    • It’s the most fulfilling thing you can do on this planet. It not only feels amazing physically, you also feel like a good person
    • You might be able to call in a favor later when you need some help
    • Karma (if you believe in it)
    • Because there are more people in this world than just you 
15. Set aside a specific time to worry each day.Ponder all of your problems and anxieties during that time so that they will not distract you during work or moments of pleasure. This way you can be extremely efficient with your time and avoid focusing on negative things as much as possible. If you get all of your worry out of the way and have the mental fortitude to keep from reverting back to them, you will be much happier on the daily.
16. Be honest at all times.Lies lead to nothing but trouble. Being known as trustworthy is an excellent trait to maintain and essential to having integrity.
17. Figure out what your goals and dreams are.So many people wander aimlessly through life simply go for whatever small thing they want moment by moment. Instead, decide what your perfect life consists of and begin to put the steps in motion to reach that place. The most satisfying thing in the world (yes, better than sex, much better) is overcoming a challenge and reaching a goal. We are the happiest when we are growing and working towards something better.
18. Start your day off right.Wake up and set aside an hour for personal development activities (meditation, self-introspection, observing nature, etc.) Do the things that make you feel blissful, optimistic and empowered so that you can set a positive tone for your day. I guarantee that once you start doing this, your days will be more enjoyable and fulfilling. Today is going to be the best day of your life. Duh.
19. Utilize ‘The Burning Method.’Whenever a fear or worry or complaint comes to mind, close your eyes and imagine writing down the thought on a piece of paper. Then proceed to light the paper and fire and watch it disintegrate. Even better, actually write it down and burn it. You won’t have any problem ridding your mind of the thought after doing this.
20. Travel.
    Anyone who has ever gone anywhere will tell you that traveling is one of the most exciting and life-changing activities that you can do. Observing a different culture will expand your mind while making you further appreciate the life you already live. This goes back to becoming an explorer: this world is your jungle so go explore! Who knows, maybe you’ll find a place you love so much that you decide to move. Imagine the positive repercussions a new environment could have on your life.
21. The Rubber Band MethodThis is the third and final way to rid yourself of negative thoughts (hopefully by now you have figured out that this is very important!). Place a rubber band around your wrist and snap it against your skin anytime a negative thought finds its way into your head. This operant conditioning technique associates a slight pain with negative thoughts like Pavlov associated food/salivation with the sound of a bell. Sounds a bit cruel at first but it only stings for a second, I promise. Plus the outcome, having only positive thoughts, far outweighs a little slap on the wrist here and there.
22. Learn to be unaffected by the words of others.Most people get very upset when they are called negative names by others, but there is a simple trick to overcoming this. Here it is: If I went up to you and called you a fire hydrant, would you be upset? Of course not. Obviously you are not a fire hydrant, you are a human being. The same concept applies to when someone calls you something that you know you are not. They are foolish for saying such things, so why would you react with such anger? The only exception is when someone calls you something that is true! In this case, you should thank them for alerting you to a weakness, one that you can now work on changing.
23. Develop the ability to forgive.Forgiveness is something that most people fail miserably at even thought it’s so simple. Grudges only bring more misery to those who hold them and prevent good relations with the target. YOU makes mistakes all of the time so why not have mercy when other do? Remaining angry feels horrible while forgiving someone brings a refreshing sensation to the mind and healing to the relationship.
24. Be the person that makes others feel special.Be known for your kindness and sympathy.
25. Visualize daily.It has been said and proven time and time again that what you focus on is what you get. If you complain all of the time, you will run into more of the things you complain about. The same goes for good things like health, wealth and happiness. So spend some time in the morning imagining yourself achieving whatever it is that you currently desire. Focus is key in this exercise, so choose a quiet environment where you won’t be disturbed. If you’re having trouble focusing and continually find that your mind has wandered to something else, read about meditation in the following life tip. 
26. Meditate everyday for at least 20 minutes.In this modern world where everyone is so connected to everything else via cell phones, TV and internet, most people rarely enjoy the beauty of silence. The ability to quiet your mind and relax your body is an art and skill that everyone should develop. Simply sit somewhere, preferably in nature, and focus on your breathing or try to think about nothing. This is going to be extremely hard at first! You might find it boring or just plain impossible to think of nothing, but you will get better and you will learn to love it. Post-meditation, you will feel extremely clear-headed and.. well, just plain wonderful. The only way to really understand this sensation is to try it.
27. Learn to control your mind.What kind of skilled human are you if you cannot even control your own thoughts? While the human mind is described as being a stream of consciousness, that does not mean you can’t decide where your stream flows. Techniques like meditation and the 3 ways to flush out negative thoughts will aid you immensely in learning to control your mind.
28. Learn to control your emotions.The only person that can make you unhappy is you! You are the one that decides to be affected by the words and actions of others. Realize this so that the next time you experience a negative emotion, you can find the strength within yourself to overcome it.
29. Take a class in speed reading.Books are full of information that can enhance your knowledge-base, vocabulary and yourself as a person. Speed reading is an easy way to get at this info faster so that you can have more time for other endeavors.
30. Relax!This one is for you workaholics out there (myself included). Yes, work is very important and productive but you need to take some time to chill out everyday or you are going to burn out faster than a candle with no oxygen. Additionally, you need to reward yourself for a job well done. What’s the use of doing all of that work if you can’t have a little fun from time to time anyways?
31. Work on making good first impressions.Practice a strong, firm handshake and the small talk that generally goes along with meeting someone for the first time. People won’t know what to think of you if you have nothing more to say beyond “My name is _______, nice to meet you.” Also make sure you remember names, as mentioned previously. Who knows, you may be going into business with or marrying this person you’re meeting for the first time if you make a good impression. Be sure and make an excellent one.
32. Learn to use your eyes to their full potential:
    • Make constant eye contact when in conversation. Looking away (especially down) is a sign of inferiority and uncertainty. Instead, look at your conversation partner dead in the eyes and keep them locked on
    • Master the piercing stare. You know when someone looks at you and it feels like they can see into your soul? Well that’s not a hereditary characteristic, it just takes practice. Work on sharpening your gaze in the mirror. You’ll know you have it when it’s intimidating to continue looking at yourself
    • Master the one-eyebrow raise. This one isn’t necessary by any means, but hey, why not? Pick a brow to learn with and go look in a mirror. Raise both of your eyebrows but use your hand to hold down the brow that you want to stay down. This will probably feel very stupid at first but if you keep trying, you will eventually pin down the muscle you need to flex to get that one brow up
33. Be mysterious.Don’t let off everything about you and definitely leave out some major details. There is something both alluring and mesmerizing about someone who no one knows fully about. I’m not saying to confide in no one or to alienate yourself. Just think James Bond.
34. Come up with a life mantra.You know, like “Carpe Diem” or “Live life to the fullest,” but not as cliché. Make it something that really hits home with you so that you will actually stick to it. Make sure it’ not so specific that it rarely applies but also not so general that it’s not personal.
35. Get good at something.Call it a hobby or a passion, whatever it is, just get damn good at it. Your occupation does not count! Make it something that you can practice often enough to excel at. Examples: Magic tricks, surfing, ping-pong, creating short films, and unicycling. It can be anything but I would recommend choosing something that: 1) You are passionate about 2) You can bust out at any moment to display your skills for any discerning crowd. My mind goes immediately to aerobatics and break dancing, but that’s just me.
36. Keep your brain sharp.The majority of people are stuck in ruts. They go to the same job everyday, hang out with the same friends and eat at the same places. While that may feel safe, it’s not the most stimulating lifestyle for your brain. Those synapses have been built up enough, so try something that you do NOT know how to do! Buy a model car kit, master the art of sudoku or crosswords, or go pick up another major at your nearest college. The point is you need to be learning new things to keep your brain honest. Form new synapses by forcing your mind to work in ways it has not worked before. Just like physical workouts, doing too much of the same exercise will eventually give no results. Switch it up!
37. Read something inspirational right before bed and after waking.This will set get you in a great mood for sleep and for the day. Read anything from a famous speech to your favorite self-improvement book. Try to read something that get’s you really excited in the morning especially so that you’ll leave your house beaming with energy and wonder.
38. Do what you love.
    There is a huge difference between making a life and making a living; which one are you making right now? So many spend their entire lives trying to make as much money as possible so that they can afford to do what they really want later. It makes no sense to settle in life until you’re 65 so that you can retire and do what you want when you’re already WAY past your prime. We only live life once so why wouldn’t you want to spend it pursuing your bliss? To do anything else would be a tragic waste of the freedom you are allowed if you are reading this right now. Follow your bliss and you will be a thousand times more happy than your retirement date and 40+ years younger.
39. Choose your friends wisely.You are affected far more than you think by the people you spend your time with. Do your friends share your values? Do they encourage you when you speak of your goals and dreams or do they scoff? Make sure the people around you are conducive to the lifestyle you want to lead or you will find yourself being dragged again and again into behavior that distances you from your desires. Friends with a habit of producing negative thoughts will especially hinder you. This can be a hard task to follow through with if you realize you good friend is one of these saboteurs, but you must be firm! Don’t let anyone get in the way of you being all that you can be.
40. Don’t burn bridges.By that I mean maintain your relationships with people even if you think you are never going to see them again. For example, if you are quitting your job, don’t chew out your boss before leaving! You might run into him/her again later and life and wish you had never severed ties so harshly. You never know when you might need the help of someone you knew in the past. Plus there is already too much hatred in this world, why add more towards the people you interact with?
41. Keep a journal/diary.It sounds like a very monotonous habit at first, but when you get into it, that little book will become a great way to organize your thoughts and track your growth over the years. Most of us already stay awake in bed at night pondering the events of the day anyways so why not document those thoughts in an organized fashion? That will allow you to look back and observe how your way of thinking has changed over time.
42. Learn to use and trust your subconscious/intuition.When you spend time in silence everyday, listen not for words but for a feeling that tells you to do something. Do not mistake your own reasoning and thoughts for those of your subconscious. If you can track where the thought came from, (this thought led to that thought which led to this thought, etc.) then it was not from your subconscious. Learning to accurately discern between the two will allow you to tap into knowledge that you don’t consciously have.
43. Develop a charismatic personality.You know, the kind of personality that is surrounded by people constantly and is the life of the party. Start visualizing yourself as THAT person. Maybe take a short course on dynamic speaking and learn some jokes. Take the time to learn some party tricks and sleight of hand. Most importantly, believe that you already are charismatic even if you fail at being the center point of the next party. Lie to yourself constantly and tell yourself that you are more warm and gregarious than Ronald Regan. Belief is the first step! Reality will come soon after.
44. Love is all there is.If you truly want to be a master of life, let love be in your every action. Love your friends, family and enemies alike. This is the most difficult thing to do out of this entire list, which is why it is listed at #50. But if you accomplish this, you will be seen as a leader among everyone that allows hate, envy, disgust and all other negative emotions into their lives. Think Gandhi. Love is so rare in this world when compared to the massive presence of hate that by exuding love, you will immediately see yourself and the people around you change. Love. Love. Love.45. Limit your time-wasting online activitiesDo you ever find yourself deep in someone’s Facebook photos and wonder how you got there? The internet is an awesome tool but some sites can suck you in and waste tons of time that could be spent doing something productive. For those who can’t help themselves, there are extensions for Chrome  that allow you to specify a certain amount of time to allow to spend on time-waster websites per day. Every minute you spend on the sites you specify is tracked, and when you reach the limit those sites are no longer able to be accessed.46. Practice energy developmentWhether or not you believe chakras exist, you can develop the ability to feel, move around and store energy in your body. These sensations range from mild tingling to violent vibrations. Start off by lying down and putting all of your focus on your left foot. Focus on and feel that foot until it beings to warm up and tingle, then move on up the body in small increments. Eventually you can get your entire body to be vibrating (seriously, it’s almost scary). Developing these abilities helps with focus for meditation, astral projection and supposedly boosts your clairvoyance.47. Do pushups (100 of them!) --> Esp for my Fat FatPushups are the easiest way to get into an exercise routine and the most complete upper body workout available without weights. Doing 3 sets of pushups until fail every other day is a simple way to tone up your chest, arms, back and abs. If you want to step it up a notch, this website promises to get anyone to be able to complete 100 pushups within 6 weeks!48. “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind”Revenge is sweet but forgiveness is sweeter. Until that’s a no brainer for you, try faking forgiveness and knowing that nothing will piss off an enemy more than you not reacting to their provocations. Eg. If you punched someone in the face in anger and then they just smiled back at you happily, wouldn’t that annoy you?49. Don’t compare yourself to othersEveryone is born with different strengths and weakness. Otherwise we wouldn’t be individuals and how much fun would that be? Consequently don’t hold yourself to the standards of others; you’ll never measure up to everyone. But you can always use the success of others as motivation to continue growing and learning. The highlighted points has truly inspired me!!! Any points written above has inspired you?

    

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